Woman insulted by date over education level, low-paying job - netizens jump to her defence
While on a recent date, Redditor Sasha received a nasty surprise.
No, she was not taken to Lau Pa Sat, nor did she receive disparaging remarks about her looks
Instead, she was told by the man that she had little hope of romance because of her education and lack of earning potential.
"I just went on a date with a guy but he made fun of me for only being a technical diploma holder... and basically only being able to get low pay in the field I'm in," she said.
"He said no guy wants to date girls who don't have good jobs or good salaries... is this normal??? Do all guys think like this??? Made me very upset."
Her post, made two days ago, was upvoted 691 times and had drawn varied responses from 343 comments at press time.
'Unnecessarily cruel'
Many came to Sasha's defence, saying her date's behaviour was not normal, and encouraging her to be proud of herself. Some even suggested that he wanted a sugar mummy.
"Most men care about physical attractiveness first and foremost. career and earning power is secondary, unless he is looking for a sugar mummy," said one commenter.
There were those who thought financial compatibility was important, but felt insulting one's date was not the right thing to do.
"Obviously that's just unnecessarily cruel," said one. "But in general, some guys are going to expect a certain background from their partner, usually benchmarked around their own education and salary."
"Understandable if he works a high paying salary and expect the same for his partner. He's entitled to his opinion, however him talking down to you and basing others opinions off his own just shows he has no class. dodged a bullet though," said another.
'The opposite is true too'
There were commenters, however, who felt that there were double standards in the dating game as men need to live up to higher expectations. "Let's be honest here, don't females judge guys for education and income as well?" asked one.
"I'm sorry to tell you, the opposite is true too, it hurts but it's true. guys may even have a higher bar to meet, height, what car you drive, the house you stay in," said another.
Another offered what he called a controversial opinion: "I think if the genders were reversed and girls refusing to date you (a guy) because you don't have a good education/ earn a lot. People would call the girl pragmatic. Which is a double standard."
Responding to commenters, Sasha later clarified that the date was not arranged through an app, but that he was a friend of a friend who went to the same gym, and that he had asked her out.
"I come from a wealthy family so I am NOT a gold digger," she insisted.
