Stomper takes videos of couple hugging and kissing on playground bench, wants them to get a room
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A man was so upset by a couple behaving affectionately with each other in a public place that he took videos of them.
Stomper Anonymous shared the videos taken from different angles of the couple on bench at a Tampines Street 34 playground on Oct 21.
"Not to shame them," he said. "That is a very open-ended question, but kissing and hugging in public amounts to a public display of affection (PDA).
"Singapore is still a conservative nation unlike the liberal west. Hugging and kissing in a public place is not illegal, but it may be viewed as inappropriate or disrespectful, especially this was in a children's playground in an HDB precinct."
He has a message for the couple.
"It is always best to avoid PDA or restrict it to some private area," said the Stomper. "You may not mind a hundred eyes looking at you, but the public may mind.
"You may not care about others' opinion, but somewhere down the line, you will know how you are standing out oddly in the crowd and you will regret it one way or the other."
The Stomper then went into more detail about what he believes should and shouldn't be allowed.
"A hug, a quick peck, holding hands, sitting with an arm around someone - those are all benign displays of affection," he explained.
"But prolonged kissing, touching of certain areas, groping, grinding, making out, those are all suited for a private room. If it looks like foreplay or the lead-in to it, keep it at home.
"A quick hello or goodbye kiss, a hug that doesn't involve arousal, holding hands, sitting with your arm around their shoulder is entirely different from this.
"Those can all be done in a very non-sexual display of affection. When it crosses over into sexual territory, such as lingering in a kiss, tongues, a hug that involves more touching, making out, et cetera - that's getting into sexual territory and you need to keep it to yourself.
"For me, deep mouth kisses and groping do not belong in public."
The Stomper admitted: "Honestly, this may sound odd or old-fashioned thinking.
"If two people love one another and are mentally healthy and socially considerate - they have the confidence to know they will have privacy in the near future and don't need to steal it in public.
"If they have a healthy relationship, they are happy enough just to be together. So they need only hold hands and give one another pecks on the cheek. Brief kisses on the lips are good enough."
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